Mid-summer Joy FixesMay 19, 2021
“Stop being a martyr. You deserve a break. You deserve a rest. You are not supposed to be selfless. You need to take care of yourself so that you can care for others.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be sharing my six mid-summer joy fixes to bring back the joy in your summer. I know that we can’t rely on the usual summer activities that we’ve had in the past like summer camps or summer jobs due to the pandemic. With that in mind, I’m going to share with you some quick solutions that have been helping me make it through this unique summer with more joy and less stress.
We will go over topics such as:
- My biggest takeaway from this summer.
- The importance of having a solid teamwork with your partner/spouse.
- Why you should rebel against the ‘shoulds’.
If you’re having a hard time facing the difficulties of summer quarantine, try these six mid-summer joy fixes that I have for you. Hopefully, this could give you a redo on this summer and consequently, helps you find the summer joy you and your family definitely deserve.
Things You Will Learn
[00:44] With this episode, I’m going to talk about the book called Joy Fixes for Weary Parents: 101 quick researched based ideas for Overcoming Stress and Building a Life You Love. This book is all about finding ways to create joy and get a break for the stress and overwhelm in our lives.
[11:15] Based on the book, I shortlisted six fixes to get the joy back in your summer. The first one, and my biggest takeaway from this book, is to stop being a martyr parent. You deserve a break, you deserve a rest. If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t have the ability to take care of your children the way you wanted to. So the quick fix for that is to communicate with your spouse or partner and discuss how you can schedule your break on a daily basis. That guaranteed rest hour is the key that will help you make it throughout the day without breaking down.
[16:25] The second fix to overcome stress is to figure out a way to have solid teamwork dynamics with your partner/spouse. Start by fixing a schedule that addresses both of your personal and work needs.
[18:56] As for the third suggestion, schedule a virtual play date with family and grandparents. These can be simple activities that can be conducted online like reading a story, online board games.
[19:55] My fourth suggestion is to have a grandparent-themed week. Similar to the third suggestion, schedule virtual playdates but with grandparents. Not only is this a quick summer joy fix but it also helps grandparents cope with the stress brought about by the pandemic.
[22:00] Also, try to take advantage of Outschool. Outschool connects parents, kids, and teachers together to create a great learning experience outside the physical boundaries of the classroom. They offer varieties of unique online classes that your kids could sign up to.[25:13] For the sixth and final suggestions: rebel against the ‘shoulds’. Stop thinking that you should be doing this or that because this is going to add more stress and decrease the joy in your family. So instead of focusing on the ‘shoulds’, start savoring the simplicity of this summertime.
Quotes From Episode 41
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”
“We're obsessed in our culture with productivity and it's leading us to sometimes make some choices that I don't think are best for us, for our families and for our children. So slow down and take advantage of this simpler summer.”
“If you do have a spouse or a partner, figure out a way that you can tag-team. This way, you will have a lot more energy that could take you further in your day.”
“Take that break and make sure that it is a time that is scheduled and protected so that you can make sure that you will be able to get reinvigorated.”
“You can have all the parenting intentions to parent a certain way, to treat your children with dignity, and to focus on that deep connection but it all goes out of the window if you're not taking care of yourself.”
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