Say You're Sorry! Encouraging Genuine Apologies In Kids
May 18, 2021“We need to move away from thinking that performance is more important than the actual process of going through and developing these feelings … We want them to be able to look at their sibling or their peer that is upset that they have upset and kind of put themselves in that child's shoes …”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we dive into helping your children understand the process behind giving a genuine apology. The key this process might be difficult to grasp at first, because the key is to give the child time to process through their initial emotion, that caused them to act out, into feelings of empathy for the person they may have upset.
We’ll discuss the best way to give them time and space to process, but then check-in with them to help them facilitate an apology, different ways children may “apologize,” and when you may need to step in and provide an apology for your child.
Things You Will Learn
Episode Resources
The Sorry Plane by Deborah MacNamara
Quotes From Episode 11
“... so if one of my children did something to a playmate, a friend or to their sibling that was mean or hurtful, or just in bad character, I would say to them, go say you're sorry. And then I would demand it of them. And that child would likely follow through, but say, “I'm sorry,” in a kind of nasty voice where you knew they obviously didn't mean it …”
“We need to move away from thinking that performance is more important than the actual process of going through and developing these feelings … We want them to be able to look at their sibling or their peer that is upset that they have upset and kind of put themselves in that child's shoes …”
“ … sometimes you need to take action quicker than your child is ready to act on. In those cases, like I said, go ahead and say [I’m sorry] for them.”
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