Q & A - Your Questions Answered
May 18, 2021
“I want to encourage you, the 3D parent podcast listener, to collectively reject this notion that we've come to accept as normal in our society, as normal in our culture, that kids grow up into teens who hate and reject their parents. That is just not true.”
On this episode of the 3D Parent podcast, I am going to be taking the time to answer listener questions! Some topics that come up include cultivating gratitude with your child, handling behavior changes as your kids start to grow and mature, and helping your children learn to navigate speaking up for themselves.
If you would like to submit a question to be addressed in a later episode, please contact me via my website or my Facebook page with your question, and I will let you know when your question will be airing on an episode!
Things You Will Learn
[1:32] Questions 1: How to cultivate gratitude in children and avoid the me, me, me default, without the often accompanying feelings of shame, guilt or self-neglect?
- [2:03] There is a lot of research that supports gratitude and gratitude practices as having a huge impact not only on our emotional health and well-being, but also on our physical health.
- [2:44] Tips to help incorporate gratitude include modeling by the parent, and creating a daily routine, perhaps before bed, around being thankful.
[8:43] Questions 2: How to handle a sudden change in a child’s behavior and attitude?
- [9:30] The first thing we need to do as parents, is to get rid of the notion that kids grow up into teenagers and suddenly reject and rebel against their parents.
- [11:12] The child’s behavior in this scenario, and all scenarios, is acting as a form of communication for your child. Instead of responding with punishment, try to meet them where they are, acknowledge their feelings and search for the root of the behavior.
- [12:57] In these situations it can be very beneficial to model calm and respect. Your child will reflect this back to you and you’ll get less disrespectful behavior coming back to you.
[17:28] Question 3: How can I help my child stand up and assert their feelings on their own? How can I instill confidence in my child and give them the tools to help with this?
- [20:50] A big point you can make with your child is that your child is not responsible for the other children’s feelings. Enforce how kind it is that she cares so much, but that she doesn’t need to fix how others feel. If your child is very empathetic, you may even appeal to your child by saying how by not trying to fix their emotions, you are helping them learn how to handle them.
[23:44] Lastly, I want to touch on the importance of consent, the language around consent, and consulting consent to play with another child or to give someone a hug. I have included a link to an article in the resources that provides more information, and I will also most likely address this in a future episode.
Episode Resources
Article on Gratitude Benefits for Emotional and Physical Health
Article on Teaching Kids About Consent
Quotes From Episode 7
“The rose would be something that you're grateful for, something that happened that was wonderful or beautiful in your day. And the Thorn is something that was maybe hard or something that was difficult. So processing those kinds of highs and lows of the day through a little ritual of ok everybody goes around and share your rose and your thorn could be another way of showing and expressing gratitude in connecting with your entire family.”
“I want to encourage you, the 3D parent podcast listener, to collectively reject this notion that we've come to accept as normal in our society, as normal in our culture, that kids grow up into teens who hate and reject their parents. That is just not true.”
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