Parent Coaching: Aggression Toward Nanny
May 18, 2021“ … aggression is really what happens for kids when they don't want to feel something that is very vulnerable. So when there's a there's an underlying feeling that they just don't want to face, a lot of times kids will lash out in aggression.”
This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I welcome a fellow parent and friend, Elizabeth and we are going to be focusing today’s episode around working through childhood aggression toward parents and a nanny or caregiver.
Throughout the episode we recognize there are a couple different things at play in this situation. We will revisit some topics that I’ve already discussed on the podcast, including understanding childhood aggression and cultivating a deep connection with your child. But we also touch on how to help bridge separation for a child if that is something that is causing them distress.
This episode is full of helpful tips and tricks on a variety of different topics, so it really gives you a good example of how all of the tools I’ve discussed can be utilized together to help you continue to raise your children with discipline without sacrificing your relationship with them.
Things You Will Learn
Episode Resources
The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn
Quotes From Episode 14
“ … aggression is really what happens for kids when they don't want to feel something that is very vulnerable. So when there's a there's an underlying feeling that they just don't want to face, a lot of times kids will lash out in aggression.”
“Developmentally, it's really important for children to not be self programmed to try and avoid vulnerable feelings. We need them to become more comfortable in the discomfort of those uncomfortable feelings.”
“I notice the more that I play with her, the more that I create our day as being fun and playful, the more I see that kind of willingness. And I feel like anything I can do to foster that between the two of them would also create that willingness from Laney.”
“But when it comes to parents and caregivers, that's a place where you want to keep those feelings and emotions that are being stirred up for us to ourselves. Because when we communicate those feelings, it's communicating ‘you have a lot of power over me.’ And the truth is, it's not fair to put a child response, make a child responsible for the feelings that we're having.”
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