MANAGING MORNING MAYHEM
I am so happy you have found the 3D Parent Podcast. My name is Beaven Walters, and I am your host. Before I created the 3D Parent, I spent over 10 years teaching in various educational settings. I have always had a passion for working with children. After my first child was born, and not too long after my second, I discovered I was truly passionate about parenting in a way that worked for my children. So, I became a certified parent coach to help not only myself, but other parents who were struggling through a tough season in parenting just like me.
This podcast was created with the parent in mind. I am going to be covering the 3D Parent method and systems, so you can gain tangible tools to help you bring dignity, direction and deep connection to your family dynamic. My goal is to help you become the most confident parent you can be, and feel empowered in your parenting choices.
THINGS YOU WILL LEARN IN EP. 6: MANAGING MORNING MAYHEM
[0:25] On this episode we’re going to discuss surviving the morning without meltdowns, yelling, tears and chaos.
[1:45] Why are mornings so challenging? It is a time of transition coming off a time of separation (sleep).
[3:28] One of my biggest tips to help make mornings go more smoothly is to prepare what you can the night before, such as lunches and backpacks. I have even encouraged my kids to pack their own lunches the evening before the next day so they have what they want in their lunch.
[8:03] Another way to make mornings easier is to have your kids pick out their clothes the night before.
[10:28] To make things a little easier for you, you can get up a little earlier before your kids, so you have time to get yourself ready. You can maybe even factor in some time to do a little self care and get yourself grounded before your kids get up.
[12:57] When your kids wake up your number one priority is connecting with your kids. (For more tips for connecting with your children listen to Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children.)
[18:07] An important tip is to stay in the lead with your parenting. As parents, we can fall into the habit of asking our children a lot of questions, and this can be very confusing for them. They may also get into the habit of “calling the shots.” But by just providing for your kids you can get through the morning with less conflict and arguments.
[21:25] If you have multiple children, I recommend starting the day connecting to the child that needs the least support and work your way down to the child that needs the most support.
[24:19] If you do have a child that really struggles with separation, work on connecting and bridging them to the next time you’ll be together. This can also be done using contact points throughout the day, for example, by leaving them a small note in their lunch box.
QUOTES FROM MANAGING MORNING MAYHEM
“One of the most commonly discussed issues in my parent coaching practice with my clients is the mornings. How to get through the mornings without meltdowns, without chaos, without everybody ending up yelling at each other, with kids crying and just a whole mess that you feel terrible about the rest of the day.”
“I encourage you to consider teaching and encouraging your kids to pack their own lunches the day before. This is something I did in my own family and it was really because I was really frustrated with a mad dash in the morning to pack lunches and make breakfast all at the same time. That was resulting in a lot of chaos.”
“When I had a really little one that hated getting out of her pajamas in the morning, you know what? She wore pajamas to preschool a couple of times. And I made that OK, because going through a battle in the morning and having her have a really rough transition into a preschool wasn't worth it for me.”
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