WHAT IS THE 3D PARENT APPROACH?
I am so happy you have found the 3D Parent Podcast. My name is Beaven Walters, and I am your host. Before I created the 3D Parent, I spent over 10 years teaching in various educational settings. I have always had a passion for working with children. After my first child was born, and not too long after my second, I discovered I was truly passionate about parenting in a way that worked for my children. So, I became a certified parent coach to help not only myself, but other parents who were struggling through a tough season in parenting just like me.
This podcast was created with the parent in mind. I am going to be covering the 3D Parent method and systems, so you can gain tangible tools to help you bring dignity, direction and deep connection to your family dynamic. My goal is to help you become the most confident parent you can be, and feel empowered in your parenting choices.
THINGS YOU WILL LEARN IN EP. 2: WHAT IS THE 3D PARENT APPROACH
[0:21] I want to start this episode by discussing the 3 D’s - dignity, direction and deep connection, and the important role they play in this approach to parenting.
[4:26] So what is the 3D Parent approach? It is a developmental approach that requires a parent to observe and understand their child’s behaviors.
[6:07] Here I make reference to Dr. Neufeld of the Neufeld Institute and his example of a sculptor parent vs. a gardener parent to describe the difference between a behaviorist and a developmentalist approach to parenting.
[10:16] As I stopped trying to control my daughter and started to understand her better, I enjoyed her and our relationship more.
[11:29] So how do you start parenting as a 3D Parent? Faith in yourself and lots of practice.
[13:06] I will walk you through decoding your child’s behavior, by first, getting out of the 2D mindset and second, by getting curious about your child’s behavior and asking yourself questions when your child does not behave how you would hope
[20:30] Lastly, you must address the need that is not being met for your child without shame or blame, to complete the 3D Parent approach.
[20:56] At this point in the podcast, I’d like to walk you through some real life examples of decoding behavior from my own personal experience as a mom.
QUOTES FROM WELCOME TO
BECOMING A 3D PARENT
“The 3D parent is literally looking at behavior as another form of communication so that you can determine what’s causing the behavior. What is below it?”
[In reference to developing a 3D Parent] “This parent is focusing on relationship, is focusing on emotion and making sense of emotions and feelings … and fostering conditions that are going to help this child mature and grow and flourish.”
“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what’s going on.”
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